Do you believe that because one home schools their children that this makes them a better mother? I am a homeschooling mother of 8 years and I don’t think so. In fact I do not know any one that does. Yet there is this under current it seems in many groups with this feeling, this often unspoken feeling that maybe that Mom over there that schoolers her child a certain way is better. Why? Are the Mommy wars not hard enough?
I do not understand this feeling but I am on the homeschooling side. I can sometimes forget that others might feel this way and so while trying to encourage another homeschooling mother, reminding one of all the reasons she choose to home school, I could make another feel badly when that was not the intent at all.
This I worry happened today, a public schooling mother popped into a home school thread and voiced her wise opinion on a matter and twice down played herself because she is a public school mother. I felt bad she felt the need to do that. Her opinions on education are just as valid as any other. The point of a homeschooling thread though was because there are special situations the come up and it being not a common choice there is need for support in it as well.
How can I help make this better? How as a mother who strongly believes in the wonderful things about homeschooling and the many down falls of much of the public school system support other mothers in all their educational choices?
I can not say it simply enough it seems.
Just because I homeschool and you don’t does not mean I am a better mother than you are.
I do not believe it and I do not know anyone who does. Your parenting educational choices are just as important, have their own complications and need support too. They are though a bit different in some ways. While many public schooling mothers are planning the summer, many homeschooling mothers are finishing up our home school yearly paperwork and portfolios, planning summer, and planning school for next fall. The curriculum choices are enough to make any ones head spin I have to say. It is a lot of work but isn’t all mothering a lot of work? Is a mother of 8 a better mother than a mother of 1 because she has more work? Why must we compare? Why can’t we just support one another?
So to the mothers who read this, I don’t care how you school your children. They are yours and you know best. Please don’t think because I make a different choice that I think less of you.