This post must first assume that your well aware that co-sleeping can be done safely and that it is biologically the best way for Moms and Babies to sleep together. Of course each Mom and baby are different and we are not cave women anymore. Still the drive deep inside us, and in our babies is the same.
It is known that co-sleeping helps Mom and Baby sleep better. Does it help Dad though too? What about sex?
What About Sex?
This is no small issue and something many new parents to co-sleeping wonder about, and something many co-sleeping parents wonder about with other parents.
The truth is, co-sleeping for many couples doesn’t stop sex from happening. It just happens in other rooms, when baby is sleeping in other areas, in the shower, or even when baby is just across the room or on the floor!
This is not the case for all co-sleeping parents though. Some parents don’t take care of this part of their lives. Some how mom ends up win one bed with the babies or even pre-schoolers or older and Dad ends up alone or on the couch. How does this happen? Was it an active choice? I can’t tell you.
I can tell you that it takes effort no matter how you baby sleep or where your sleeping. Between being drained to not having enough hours in the day it has to be something one works at. The truth is co-sleeping could effect your sex lives, if you let it.
My TMI of the moment!
So this past month my husband was away for 3 weeks. I can say I wasn’t feeling very close to him. Heck I wasn’t feeling much like myself even. Last night with our 2 year old in bed sleeping so peacefully in between us I was so happy and content with my Mommy life. My sex life after all that time away, not to much. It dawned on me that I need to recharge and it goes beyond sex at this point. Chances are goes beyond sex for you too.
I found myself online today on http://www.edenfantasys.com when I got some time alone. I need to find ways to relax and feel good about myself. I admit I am feeling a bit old. I am going through lotion like crazy to have skin feeling the way I like it. Lotion is NOT very kissable though and I am well aware of this. Forget the kids, my own skin care is getting in the way. I want to try this:
Edible Body butter. I love the way body butter goes on but again, tastes bad. This might be different! Reading the reviews it sounds just like what my skin needs and my bed room life too! So that’s my secret, when things seem disconnected I explore interesting sites and plan a date, an early bed time, and hopefully baby sleeping not in our room for the start of the night. Don’t let being a parent stop you from being a wife and Goddess in bed still! Every effort counts.